let your child be goofy and silly and make messes. teach them to clean up the messes without yelling at them. let your child be a child. not a mini adult who has to be perfect 24/7
Food is just food and doesn’t have a natural mealtime. This is especially important to remember when you’re dealing with mental illness that makes it hard to eat.
When I’m in a down swing with my depression, I forget to eat/don’t feel like eating. When I do get around to eating, often the only thing I want is something like pancakes, or milk, or apple sauce. And of course it’s 6pm and I feel lame for eating ‘breakfast’ foods. Or it’s 8am and I want fried chicken, and feel like a terrible person for eating dinner at 8 in the morning.
But food is just food. We assign certain foods to certain times of day culturally, but it’s not a biological thing. Your body can digest pizza at 9 in the morning and yogurt at 11pm. Are you eating food? Yes? Then great! It doesn’t matter what ‘kind’ of food you’re eating, as long as you’re nourishing that body of yours. It’s ok to have cheap ramen for breakfast if that’s all you can stand to eat. That’s ok–you ate food today!! That’s a major accomplishment when you’re dealing with an illness that tries to stop you from doing everyday person things. (Especially if you’re recovering from an eating disorder.)
Don’t feel bad if you eat rice for breakfast or muffins for dinner. Food is just food.
if youre too scared to drive because you are consumed with uncertainty and fear of what to do and youve convinced yourself that youll mess it up and seriously hurt or kill yourself or others and this leaves you dependent on other people and makes you feel like a useless piece of shit clap ur hands *clap clap*
i made this post two years ago and i wanted to make an addition: as of now i have my license and i can drive without being afraid! i wanted to say that for all of the people reblogging this because they relate. i used to be DEATHLY terrified of driving; i would burst into tears just getting behind the wheel and i couldnt drive on the highway because i was so scared
it took a lot of time, patience, and practice, but i hope this maybe gives some of you hope that you too can conquer your fear. there was a time it seemed absolutely impossible for me, but it DID improve. and i believe in you. i believe that you can do it! push your limits slowly and safely. maybe it takes months, years, but theres a light at the end of this tunnel
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this post is circulating again….pls reblog this version instead if u can!!!
1. Remind yourself that, in time, things will change and we all get bogged down at different periods in life.
2. Try to make sure that you do some exercise – as that brightens our mood and boosts our mental energy.
3. Be aware of the tendency to isolate yourself. Being around other people can give you more support, and can help you to keep going when you feel like giving up.
4. Try changing your routine. Just changing a few things can help you feel more in control, and less at the whim of external circumstances.
5. Set some small goals for yourself and take some steps to make them happen – again, you’ll feel less trapped as you will feel that you have options.
6. Make sure you treat yourself well so you know that you have value … Buy some clothes … or take time out … or do whatever makes you happy.
7. Pay attention to your thoughts, and keep your mind on what inspires you. Look for hope – create some vision – and remember: things WILL change!
i hate the trope of kids giving their favorite stuffed animal to a younger child as a sign of compassion and coming of age, as if this is something that should be expected of kids as they grow up
im 22 and i dont care who you are you’ll have to pry my ikea shark out of my cold dead hands
I can’t remember the name of the study, but there was a theory, supported by pretty good evidence, that if you have your comforter, be it blanket, plush, pacifier, whatever, taken away when you’re not ready to give it up, even if you’re a dinky little kid, it can have really long lasting effects. People who kept their comforters into adulthood were less likely to smoke, drink or do drugs, tended to have better family relations and home lives etc, while those that saw their comforter removed or destroyed were more likely to be drawn to more serious “comforts” elsewhere. The more extreme the removal, the more extreme the result. Typically.
We learn at our own pace to make and break connections and emotional ties, and the situation is forced upon us, we seek comfort. But whoa wait, you can’t possibly have comfort anymore, you’re five. You’re a big kid now.
So when parents are forcing you to “grow up” by tearing the only comfort in the world from you, they could actually be messing you up big time.
In psychology they’re called “transitional objects” and they help the neurobiological process of helping children learn to internalize the experience of being loved and cared for, which is an essential part of learning to regulate your emotions. They are REALLY important.
I wonder what it means psychologically that I’ve started getting a few more for myself?
Well, there’s a process we call “re-parenting yourself” where you give yourself the love you missed out on in childhood, and thereby start to heal the pain you’ve carried since then. And using childhood comfort objects can be part of that.
Please understand that they gave a 33% tip, in cash instead of on a card, to increase the odds that the server could keep all of it.
What they mean by ‘taxation is theft’ is that servers are taxed on the ASSUMPTION that they will be tipped. If they don’t make those tips, they get taxed on them anyway. It is literally theft. By leaving cash and not writing it on the receipt, they’ve allowed the server the option of quietly slipping that 20 into their pocket and therefore not being taxed on it.
You’re out on a date at a bar when everyone – the bartender, the waitresses, the group at the booth next to you, the guys playing darts – say you should try the angel shot. But you’re pretty happy with beer and have no idea what they’re talking about.
For those of you who don’t know, the angel shot is something that you can order at certain bars if you feel like you’re in danger during a date or anything else. The bartenders with do different things depending on the shot you as for. An angel shot neat and the bartender will help you sneak out to a taxi. An angel shot on the rocks and they’ll help you sneak out to an uber that they ordered. An angel shot with lime and they’ll call the cops. This is actually super useful and I kinda hope y’all will spread this around just as general information 👀
That shit is wild to me though. ‘This doesn’t benefit me personally, so why should I pay taxes for it?’
The VA doesn’t benefit me, so fuck those 25 year olds with traumatic brain injuries. Medicare doesn’t help me out, so grandpa can get bent. I don’t watch Sesame Street, so PBS? Fuck em.
Like, listen you putrid chuckleheads, we’re trying to have a fucking society here, and part of that is taking care of your fellow fucking human beings. Paying taxes for things you might not use is part of that. And if you view that as theft, you’re a dumb shit who can go live on your own in the tundra and see how well you do.
What she said.
Oh how I wish they fucking would. This just in anyone who is against government funded programs that help ‘other’ people can pack their shit up and build a cabin..on another planet with no taxes.
Sounds like some Ayn Rand shit… .they can all go to Galt’s Gulch or whatever and leave the rest of us “moochers” in peace.
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