I wasn’t going to answer this at first, because one, it just felt rude. And two, you know, people need to know. They need to understand.
Asexuality is not a disease. It’s not something that can be “cured” or “fixed”. It’s just a part of who someone is.
How can my husband stand to be married to a woman who doesn’t like sex? First of all, that whole saying about the key to a happy relationship is having a healthy sex life is complete bullshit. My husband and I have a very satisfying and happy marriage. We’ve been married for 7 years. I don’t have a marriage that needs “saved”.
My husband didn’t marry me for sex. My sexuality isn’t what defines me. It’s a part of me, yes, but it’s not who I am. I am a wife, a mother to our animals, a friend. I am a gamer, a fan of superhero movies, a hopeless addict to Supernatural. I am kind, and friendly. I am quiet, and shy, yet to those who I love I can be fiercely protective and loyal. I love to cook, and read, and laugh. I love cuddles on the couch, holding hands while walking through the store, and stealing kisses under the stars. Last but not least, I am a woman who doesn’t need sex to feel intimate and close to her husband.
My husband loves me for all of me. He loves just being with me, whether we are watching a movie, playing a game together, or talking. We don’t need sex to be happy. We don’t need sex to be healthy. We just need each other’s love, and that’s what we have.
Yes. In the USA, married people and those with children get tax breaks that single people do not get simply because they’re married/have children. Single people are essentially penalized for not getting married and procreating.
Here are the current tax brackets for the US:
This is why the meme of ace/aros marrying for tax benefits exist. Because being single literally costs us more money. In actuality, single people carry the tax burden for the entire country.
why does nobody ever talk about how the belief of “romance is the top priority” is so toxic and dangerous? how it causes more harm than good?
this doesn’t even just affect aromantic people. this belief harms anyone and everyone.
there are people that literally believe their life has no point because they don’t have a significant other. there’s mentally ill/neurodivergent people that think they’re worthless and meaningless and disgusting because they can’t find someone who wants to date them, even if they’re showered with love from their friends and/or family. but the love only counts if it’s romantic, right?
society is constantly perpetuating the idea that you were born to find a romantic partner and that romance is the only way to be truly happy, and it’s so messed up. this completely disregards other great moments in life, like personal achievements that make you feel like you’re on top of the world and the things nobody glorifies simply because it’s not romance.
your pet(s) pulling a smile out of you every time you see them. having a deep, emotional talk with a friend and being reminded that someone cares about you. enjoying alone time with yourself. reaching a milestone or getting through a hard time. these things are so wonderful and amazing, but it’s not romance, so it doesn’t matter, right? it’s boring and insignificant.
and it really shows when questions like “do you have a boyfriend/girlfriend yet?” and “have you settled down with someone yet?” are asked. it shows how society thinks romance is the most important thing to experience in life. the “yet” implies that romance is a requirement, that you’ll have to find it eventually. but what if you don’t want to? if you simply aren’t interested in that stuff right now or if you won’t ever be interested?
romance is not everything. remember that. you were not born to “find someone” or to “have a soulmate”. you don’t need romance in your life for it to be a good one. you are allowed to not include it in your priorities. it doesn’t matter if nobody has a crush on you or wants to date you. it literally doesn’t matter. that has absolutely no importance to your worth as a human being. you were not brought into this world to impress and find a potential mate. you’re here to live and to do what makes you happy.
romance can be nice, but it is not everything. please, please remember that.
yes!! there are aroace sapphics and aroace lesbians. in my experience, sapphic/lesbian aroaces know they experience some form of attraction to girls, but have absolutely no idea how to explain it, while the a-spectrum labels still apply. I’m pretty sure it’s called alterous attraction.
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