i read where you were asexual and married. how can you’re husband stand to be married to a woman who doesn’t like sex? You need sex to have a happy relationship so i don’t understand how you’re husband can be happy living like this. maybe you should try counseling so you can save this marriage.

rieraclaelin:

I wasn’t going to answer this at first, because one, it just felt rude.  And two, you know, people need to know.  They need to understand.

Asexuality is not a disease.  It’s not something that can be “cured” or “fixed”.  It’s just a part of who someone is.  

How can my husband stand to be married to a woman who doesn’t like sex? First of all, that whole saying about the key to a happy relationship is having a healthy sex life is complete bullshit.  My husband and I have a very satisfying and happy marriage.  We’ve been married for 7 years. I don’t have a marriage that needs “saved”.

My husband didn’t marry me for sex.  My sexuality isn’t what defines me. It’s a part of me, yes, but it’s not who I am.  I am a wife, a mother to our animals, a friend.  I am a gamer, a fan of superhero movies, a hopeless addict to Supernatural.  I am kind, and friendly.  I am quiet, and shy, yet to those who I love I can be fiercely protective and loyal.  I love to cook, and read, and laugh.  I love cuddles on the couch, holding hands while walking through the store, and stealing kisses under the stars. Last but not least, I am a woman who doesn’t need sex to feel intimate and close to her husband.

My husband loves me for all of me.  He loves just being with me, whether we are watching a movie, playing a game together, or talking.  We don’t need sex to be happy. We don’t need sex to be healthy.  We just need each other’s love, and that’s what we have.