HOW TO GET YOUR ABUSER TO LEAVE YOU

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your-recovery-space:

PLEASE KINDLY READ THE NOTE BELOW. THANK YOU.
One way to get an abuser and toxic people, all emotional vultures to leave you, to lose interest in you, to stop stalking you, is to be BORING. 

– Become as boring as you can be. 
Dull. Tedious. Abusers love drama. They get excited when they make people suffer. They love to be the center of attention. They want your undivided attention. They love to control. To control you, to control every single second of your life, to control every single aspect of your life.

– Become boring. 
It’s a better idea than to just leave. When you leave, they might become so enraged at losing control, they can hurt you. They have no feelings. The only “feelings” they have are the pleasure they get of hurting, torturing, humiliating, making you suffer, and reducing you to become a zero.

– Torturing you gives them pleasure. 
Having control over you makes them breathe. They crave all the attention they can get. By letting them decide to leave you, you’ll be free for life. When you become boring, but so boring, and bored, when you show no emotion, they start to look for their next victim somewhere else. Eventually they’ll be the one to leave you.

– They can’t stand boredom. 
They need a victim they can manipulate. A victim they can torture. A victim they can control. They love to see their victim falling apart. They love to control any emotion you might have.

– Let them think it’s you. 
This has nothing to do with them, throw them off guard. Your reactions, your emotions, your torture, your fears are their oxygen. Cut their oxygen supply. Hide your emotions for a while. With time they’ll lose interest in you, and they decide to leave you.

– For those who  
can’t get away from their tormentor after they’re no longer together. For those who share custody of a child or children, continue to be tedious when they see you. Be dull as dishwater. Flat as a pancake. They can’t stand that. 

– They move on to their next victim 
to suck their life out, to crush their joys, to manipulate and abuse. Remember, they must have control. Each time you meet, you must remember to be boring. You don’t want to arouse their interest in you again. 

– They are the ones who can decide to leave, 
not you. Don’t even cry when they decide to leave. Show absolutely no emotion when they decide to leave, or they’ll stay and tear you apart. They will leave when they get bored. Just give them a hand. By being BORING.

NOTE:
I had originally written “narcissists, psychopaths, and sociopaths” where “abuser” is. Although I did not mean that all “narcissists, psychopaths, and sociopaths” are abusers, I can see why this blogger sent me a message explaining I was misinformed. 
They further explained that neurodivergent people (such as NPD, psychosis, narcissists, psychopaths, sociopaths etc), ARE NOT inherently, necessarily abusive people. While people who experience these conditions have the potential to be abusive, so does anyone else. 

Thank you to the blogger for helping correct this information, and to prevent the spread of misinformation.

I have been in this situation, and this is the absolute best advice you could possibly get, if youy can control your emotions. Please pass this around.